It’s difficult to explain why we fall in love and how we fall out of love. But the fact remains that everyday there are people all around the world falling in love and falling out of love too. Some of the couples make commitment in love or marry at a very young age. With time, some of them drift for the simple fact that both of them have outgrown each other or have found out that they can’t be together anymore. Incompatibility is one of the most crucial factors for the break-ups but then again there are couples who breakup and after a while feel that they should come back and would like to save the failing relationship. How to save a failing relationship? Well, love and marriage are topics that would call our attention for all the years this earth will survive. Though there are umpteen numbers of books written on this topic, there still is need for us to go on learning and discovering layers of emotions that makes up this word – Love!
Driving the point home, here are some tips you can consider giving a try while you are working on your failing relationship –
Foremost step is to decode the reasons for the failing relationship. Instead of resorting to clichéd questions like – ‘Why husbands leave their wives’ or ‘Why wives leave their husbands’ etc, ask yourself and your partner why this relationship is not working? Ensure that you get as many objective answers to this question as possible.
Communication is one factor that must have broken all the records for being touted as the most significant aspect of any relationship. If you haven’t been talking enough to your partner then steal some to do so. Communication here means, the effective conversation sans all the arguments and fighting that happens in the relationship.
Saving a failing relationship would ideally mean resolving the conflicts between the couple and being happy again in the relationship. However if you feel that it is best to part then do so without showdown of graces. If you part gracefully then it would be equivalent to saving a relationship especially if there is a child involved.
Never under estimate the power of an apology. An apology, if used correctly, can save lives, loved ones and can cut away years of damage, but when an apology is used incorrectly it can end up causing more harm.
There is a formula to follow for an effective apology and when this formula is used it is like wiping the slate clean.
What is the purpose of an apology?
An admission of wrong doing. You must take responsibility for what you you have done wrong if you want forgiveness.
You can exacerbate your problems if you make these common mistakes:
– Trying to decide who is right and who is wrong. Accept responsibility if you want to save your relationship.
– Insincerity. Don’t try and make excuses, this can make things worse.
– Demanding Forgiveness. Don’t demand, ask.